Over time it is these things that come back to haunt us. Our bodies cry out to be heard. We want release. But, because we have hidden these things, or suppressed them, we forget how to access the hurt and the pain. However, our bodies are acutely aware that we are trying to suppress certain memories and our intuition will try hard to bring these memories to the surface for healing. These memories are usually in our subconscious mind and often long forgotten as most of these hurtful experiences occur in our 0 - 20 years.
The subconscious mind is like a computer, running the program of our life, therefore we need to be sure that it is working for us and not against us. For example, if you had a very painful experience, eg laughed at at school for saying the wrong answer or giving a speech and being laughed at, your mind will work very hard to prevent you being in a similar situations, if you haven't processed that hurt. Now this may seem like a small thing, however if you have to give a presentation at work, the fear of being laughed at may surface and be strong enough for you to try and avoid giving a presentation.
For over 25 years I worked with clients who were hurting in one way or another. The symptoms that they presented were just that, symptoms. Symptoms of long, forgotten hurt and pain from experiences that were never processed; coming out in their mental or physical health as dis-ease.
Hurtful memories, life experiences, other people's words and our own distorted beliefs can lead to mental and physical illness. People very often miss the connection between a hurtful experience and the ramifications of doing nothing to address the hurt. If you stifle the hurt or do not express the hurt it has an affect on your body. In essence, your body is energy and that energy needs to flow. Years of experience working with people through using Reiki energy and hypnotherapy has taught me, that people who hurt have very different energy to those that do not hurt.
For example, through reiki, I can zoom in on a person's throat, and feel that the energy there is not right. What I find when I do this and discuss it with the person is that they cannot speak up for themselves, they cannot voice what bothers them. Over time, these are the people who experience lots of colds, coughs and worse illnesses if they do not learn to voice their thoughts. If they are unable to voice their thoughts, they very often get angry with themselves, because whilst they would like to speak up, they think they can't, and they turn their anger inward, berating themselves for not being able to do so.
In these cases, I would ask people to 'pretend' we were doing a drama, and I would pretend to be the person they wanted to voice themselves to. I would say to them, 'pretend', just for a moment that I am the person you are so angry and annoyed with, and let me have it. Give me your best shot; tell me why you are so angry. They would try to voice their anger, some quite well, others timidly. Then I would get to the real deal, I would ask them to look beyond the anger at the hurt. I would say to them, "OK, now tell me why you are feeling so hurt?" Tears would fall as they expressed themselves to me, about why they felt so hurt, or betrayed, or unloved... and this is what leads to healing and getting the energy to flow. It is the opening up of themselves that frees all of the pent up, withheld energy that may have been there for many, many years. Once you release this energy, you cannot ever experience it again the same way. It will be gone. Pent up energy released and replaced with the ability to speak up more easily.
You cannot withhold energy tightly and hope to be healthy and well. Energy must flow.
About Cheryl Cattarin
Most of you know Cheryl as the organiser of Connections Fairs, but she is also a healer and a writer.She wrote From Crappy to Happy to provide simple self help tips and techniques that anyone can apply to their lives. She will have these at our fairs for those who are interested in self-healing techniques.